Dear Dr. Gay Nerd- I’m really sorry if this isn’t the right type of question because I know that you’ve been doing relationship questions, but I wanted to see if you would answer this anyways. […]
Dear Dr. Gay Nerd– I’ve got this friend who’s a really nice guy. We’re not best friends or anything, but we have a good time whenever we hang out. The problem is that he really […]
Dear Dr. Gay Nerd, I’ve been dating for a while now and have met a healthy variety of guys, but none of them progress further than 4 or 5 dates. I’ve become friends with 1 […]
Dear Dr. Gay Nerd–
My boyfriend dumped me about a month ago. We were together for almost a year. He said, “Even though our relationship is really good, I’m not sure if staying with you is going to help me become the person I want to be.” But we’ve been talking over the past few days about getting back together. I’m still in love with him. He says he really misses me and wants to take it slow, one day at a time. I just don’t know what to do. My head tells me don’t do it and my heart says go for it. I don’t know if I can handle losing him again. What should I do?
–Is The Cake a Lie?
Comic writer and famed ornithologist Gail Simone recently posted the above on her tumblr. Being a follower and a fan, I asked if I could use Gail’s inquiry for Dr. Gay Nerd, and she kindly agreed. Normally we condense the opinions of our contributors into a single response, but this time we’re going to let the Gay Nerds Panel share their individual coming out stories and offer their advice.
Dear Dr. Gay-Nerd,
I’m a big Xbox Live player (I live in a small town, and there aren’t many local gamers to hang out with), and I’ve made some really close friends playing online. One in particular stands out from the rest. We’ll get into a party chat with each other even if we’re not playing a game. He’s a great guy and never seemed to bat an eye when I told him I was gay. We’ve really connected over the past year or so. The problem is I think I’m falling for him. Now, he says he’s straight, but he never talks about a girlfriend (or even says he’s looking for one). I try not to ask about it, because I don’t want to make things awkward between us, but sometimes I do wonder. I’m kind of going crazy here, but I don’t want to scare him off because he IS my best friend at this point. Should I tell him or “stay in the closet” (as it were)?